Yesterday I had been studying at the library and I came along a great psychology dictionary. Then I started to check it, which I noticed a beautiful subject to write about. That was parenting styles.
Everyone has parents mostly, think about what kind of parents do you have? and think about your behaviours to see if it fits.
You may have a little of it a little of that or you may have totally one type of parents. That depends on YOU how you see your parents. Not depending on the facts actually. Let's face it, you don't want to think about your parents in a bad way.
I know that, we all have the same protective psychology. At least give yourself a break and do not tell anyone, just identify what type of parenting you had, maybe you'll have an idea about how you will treat your children.
Authoritarian Parenting:
-This type of parenting is characterized best by the word: "strict". They put rules, but they don't explain why they put those rules. This is a big failure when it comes to child psychology because this attitude is not so "friendly" as you see. It can make you hate your parents sometimes, of course in the end you'll love them when you figure out why they forbid you or so.
-Second thing about this type of parenting is that they are very demanding, they demand a lot
from you. They may demand you to be successful, or they demand you to help them when they ask you to. There is no way you have more important things than helping them.
Authoritative Parenting:
-There are rules again. In a softer way, they talk, they explain things to their children. Whatever they ask, these parents try to answer or at least find the answer for their kids. They are more forgiving when the child doesn't meet the expectations. They have their disciplinary methods but they are supportive. They listen to you a lot, willing to hear about what you think.
For example they will buy new stuff for the house, they ask you whether you like them, or about the color(sometimes little things but they'll make you decide. That will grow your personality)
-This kind of parenting give the best results obviously. The children will grow to be responsible adults from this kind of family.
Permissive Parenting:
-These parents have very few demands from their children. Probably a parent coming from a family that is authoritarian will say:"I'll put no boundaries to my children" and pick this type of parenting. Whatever way they think, they think in a wrong way. They talk a lot to their children but more than a parent like a friend. They put so little rules, you are free to go, spend money, join to the parties. Well it may seem like a dream to you, but this way your personality and emotional thirst never quench. The thing is, you are too free that even if you don't succeed at anything, you won't be punished.
-This kind of parenting will lead to lack of self-discipline to the child. Moreover, it may lead to a state of insecureness due to lack of guidance and boundaries.
-A study has shown that authoritarian parents' children when having their own house, and generally the permissive parents' children have a high rate of becoming a heavy drinker or smoker. One because of breaking free of rules, the other because of lack of discipline.
Uninvolved Parenting:
-They simply don't care a lot for their children, this is a rare situation. Parent's psychology may not be in a good state either. Child's psychology is bound to spoil in the end too. They sometimes reject their children's needs, sometimes they try to even avoid their children. You can guess the child's psychology.
Now having defined all of these, what do you think of these parenting types. Which ones are better which ones should be fixed?
Treat your children good!
