Quit facebook

Yesterday, I had quit facebook. And with almost 800 friends. That is self-explanatory about how I was addicted to it. BUT my very dear friend S persuaded me to quit it and now I feel better about myself.

I want to discuss the effects of getting a facebook or quitting it and becoming an addict, how you CAN'T possibly quit it easily.

Firstly they have a very persistent system that wouldn't allow you to quit so easily. It gives like 14 days for you to decide whether you want to really quit or you want to come back. If you login, it activates itself again and it takes the quitting as deactivating. If you can make it up through the 14-day test, all your info will be deleted, and you can not go back.

Well I'm at my second day, I guess I better stop counting the days because without facebook the time passes so slowly. I realized how much time I have been killing. Poor me. When you really think about it, you can go to a community or a club or sth and socialize a whole lot there. That you don't need facebook actually but it is so easy. I think once I get my data deleted, I won't be going back so this 14 days thing is really a test of willpower to me.

I'm thinking about how I will use the time I've been wasting on facebook, if you have any ideas don't ever hesitate! I think I am going to be meeting more friends in the real world, going swimming more, maybe having a new hobby. I don't know. Of course I'll be writing more on my blog.

Some of my friends told me to just lessen the time that I've been spending on facebook but it just doesn't work that way. Once you login, you want to check almost anything, or chat to someone etc. When you say give me a break, whoops almost 3 hours went to waste already. You promise yourself you'll concentrate this time and study, and you say let me have a break. Another 1 hour goes to waste.

It may be due to my weak willpower or whatever, I'm aware of that and that's why I totally quit facebook, if I did something else I knew I was going to start it all over again.

It is like about an alcoholic moving to a country that alcohol is not sold. It is an absolute solution.

I hope any of the time killers on facebook like me would be able to quit it because in the real world, there are a lot more adventures and people awaits for you.

How do you build a good relationship with people?

Well, I researched the subject a little and they were about being too positive and so. I'm not going to say that. But the subject I'm discussing is about people with the same position as you, like your co-worker, a friend's friend, A guy from college etc.

Sometimes, you need to OBSERVE first, and then you can introduce yourself to the person you are meeting. It may leave a good impression on them if you smile so much or if you make jokes all around but it's not a good idea for all cases.

The key is that: Behave according to their personalities.

For example; if the guy is a proud one, you never should be humble. You need to take it slow. If he expects you to open up a subject, DON'T. Why should you be the one who is making an effort? It's only fair to expect the same amount of talk from the person you are talking to. Don't let him patronize you. Even if he is taller, more educated etc. you need to treat him equally. Well, I'm not saying you should be cold to him, but to have a distance at first may be good. That depends a whole lot to his personality though but be patient until you fully get to know him.

And leave an open door sometimes, don't answer all his questions, don't look too focused. That way, believe me you may end up with a better friendship, if you want to be friends with such person :)

For a humble person, it is much easier. You can be kind, considerate, he'll repay you. By the way, don't be fooled by the humble-looking but not in the least humble kind of people because they appear a lot around me, it depends on a lot of things again that I can't write all. Personality matters about this subject so don't overdo the being kind thing again because you may be abused later.

For a guy meeting a girl, it's I think easier. It's opposite sex and you just need to be polite, that's the key. But the things about humble/proud people applies here too. Just be observant about it. You'll be fine.

http://ezinearticles.com/?White-Sun---Personality-and-Fate&id=127635

here is an article about being humble or proud, how it affects your relationships and fate.

Waiting for your comments!!

How to spot a liar

www.ted.com/talks/pamela_meyer_how_to_spot_a_liar.html

I was moved by this talk about spotting a liar. I strongly recommend you to watch it. It applies to every aspect of life so there's no way it won't interest you. I would like to read the book by Pamela Meyer about being a lie spotter. Isn't that fantastic?

No it's not about eye contact or body language as you saw on television series, it is much more deeper. Pamela Meyer suggests that often you APPROVE the lie in your subconscious mind or you overhear them on purpose.

Plus, she says that lies have evolved with people, and it starts when you were a baby. Babies will fake a cry wouldn't they? When you become 5 year-old kid, you already master how to lie.

When you think about it, now that most of the people have some knowledge about faking or lying person's movements, gestures; they fake it even more not to do those gestures. Like making up too much detail in a story would be so obvious that you are lying, but she suggests that new liars, expert ones will fake so well that it may seem natural. She tells that you can even differ that from an honest person when you read the book.

Even if you don't buy the book for the basic knowledge, you should have a look to the video!

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